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As Janelle states in her book, "All that is human, including sexuality, involves a mysterious weaving of our biological blupeprint with our experiences, perceptions, cognitions, emotions, reactions and choices."  Janelle does not believe that homosexuality is solely inborn or environmental, but believes it arises out of an interaction of
1) inherent or inborn traits, chracteristics and temperaments and
2) an individual's experiences, environment and relationships.
"Our genetically or biologically based qualities and traits cast a certain hue on our environments, uniqely shading all of our experiences: Who we are directly affects how we perceive and process our worlds. How we perceive and process our worlds in turn affects who we become" (p. 51). She believes homosexuality is a very complex and often profound condition that begins developing at a very early age, albeit unbeknownst to the individual struggler. Therefore, men and women with homosexual feelings should never be unjustly judged, condemned or ostracized because of their homosexuality.
Janelle believes that homosexuality (same-feelings, desires, arousal patterns, fantasies, behaviors and identification) can change to the extent that a man or woman is able to solidify a core sense of self and personal identity apart from a gay identity, cultivate a variety of healthy coping skills, accept and integrate a positive sense of gender identity, develop healthy relational patterns with men and women, establish purity in terms of sexual behavior (if so desired), and, amongst other things, deepen their intimacy with God, self and others. The nature and direction of change is dependent upon each individual and their circumstances. Therefore, evey homosexual man or woman should be given full autonomy and the right of self-determination in terms of the specific types of changes, if any, they desire to make in their own life.
Walking in wholeness and integrity is possible even in the midst of an ongoing vulnerability or temptation to rely on homosexual or emotionally dependent relationships to meet one's relational and identity needs. These vulnerabilities do not have to control or rule an individual's life. Reaching this kind of strength and wholeness takes time. There are no easy fixes.
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